Stay Sexy & Don’t Get Murdred: The Definitive How-To Guide by Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark
Published by Forge Books on May 28, 2019
Genres: Nonfiction, Memoir, True Crime
“We barely get any time on this planet. Do not spend it pleasing other people. Fuck politeness. Live life exactly how you want to live it so you can love the life you make for yourself.”
I started listening to My Favorite Murder when I started working a full-time job. I needed something to keep my mind busy and it helped the time pass. I’ve never been a big listener of any podcasts, but something about the balance of humor, true-crime, and a strong bond between two friends turned me into a full-fledged fan.
It took me four to five months to catch up completely on their backlog of episodes (as of writing this review they have nearly 400 episodes) so naturally when I caught up my first thought was “…now what?” I hadn’t worked this job without the sound of their voices to keep my mind from wandering and to keep me from absolutely dreading going to work. Then I remembered they spent many episodes mentioning their book they had written. (To be fair, most of those aforementioned episodes were recording during the release of the book) So I took a leap and borrowed the audiobook from my library in hopes that Karen and Georgia narrated it. There I was again, listening to their voices as I was working away. Only, this book took a couple days of listening and I nearly made it through half of the audiobook in the first day.
One of the things I enjoy the most about MFM is that Karen and Georgia are so open about their troubled pasts, mistakes made, and how they cope with what life throws at them. They’ve helped me a lot just listening to them just by knowing you’re not alone in the world. Their friendship also makes me miss my friends back home and want to start a podcast like me and my friend have been talking about for years. Stay Sexy and Don’t Get Murdered (the definitive how-to guide) is a tangible piece of Karen and Georgia’s advice I can take with me for the rest of my life.
This book is filled with anecdotes, lessons learned by the two of them, and advice on whether or not you should go into the forest. They both have lived interesting lives and have had things happen to them that would take down someone less resilient. I’ve never read (much less listened) a book like this. I’ve got a list of motivational or self-help books I’d like to get around to one day, but I never did. This isn’t quite motivational or self-help, but the stories they told resonated with me as if it were.
If you listen to their podcast, I think you’ll enjoy it much more because there’s already a connection there. However, I’m sure if I saw this book on the shelf and picked it up without having heard the podcast, I’d still enjoy it because of their humor. Of course, this is a little more formal than how they speak in person, but the audiobook is just one long podcast. The audiobook included snippets from live shows where they read pages of the book aloud and times where they sat in front of the microphone together and it made me wonder if I had switched back to the latest episode of the podcast.
In fact, the lessons they talk about and the advice they give moved me so much I ran to buy the physical copy during my lunch a couple days ago. Now I can reference the paper copy anytime I feel the need.
If you like memoirs that don’t take themselves too seriously at times and a bit of humor sprinkled over your true crime, you must go read this book. It made me smile because there’s something that all of us can relate to somewhere in there.